Coming back from loss

We often lose in life. Loss hurts. Loss is painful. Loss can feel infinite. Coming back from loss is critical to finding purpose and a new path.

I do not know everything.

In fact, most of my life I have found I know very little. As I gain time and experience, I have gained wisdom. It comes at a cost. You cannot win all the time. That is simply unnatural.

We often do not learn too much when life is handing us beautiful sunrises and sunsets. When the music is melodic and the road you are on has no bumps – you are not learning very much. You may not even be appreciating these tranquil moments. You should, but it is hard to always appreciate everything unless you step back from yourself a little.

Just as you might start to gain a little perspective, life throws you a massive curveball or smacks you right in the face with a monumental loss.

Now you find yourself wishing for that sunrise, that song, or that smooth road without a pothole to pierce your tires and ruin your day. You didn’t realize how luck you were.

But such is life. You cannot have good without evil, happy without sad, and light without darkness. One exists to explain the other. Without each possibility you cannot understand the meaning of the other.

I was told by a person much wiser than me that when you experience loss you can only navigate it by growing through it. You get through it by going through it.

So as I go through it, I know I do not do it alone. I think that helps. I know it helps.

It still will hurt for time to come. I don’t know if the hurt dissipates or you just get used to it. If you can even do that. Who knows?

I guess it is something I will find out.

My advice is to talk about it when you lose. Don’t hold it in. Don’t make it the only thing you talk about, of course. Memories and funny moments are helpful things to focus on as well. There is loss there, too. But ultimately the time well spent with a person you loved – can be the start of the healing of an ache that cannot truly ever be resolved.

Loss is hard. Loss without others to support those left in its wake, is even harder.

How do you deal with loss?

When you lose, do you want to be alone or with others?